Picking up a girl is not an easy task. In fact, many guys simply don’t know how to approach a girl and start a conversation. The whole idea behind pick up lines is to engage a girl in a conversation, and hopefully get into longer and more meaningful chat. However, the problem with pick up lines is that it’s either hit or miss. Your pick up line can really interest a girl immediately or turn her off. You think that you have a 50 percent chance for your pick up line to work on a girl. Wrong. The truth is that most of the time pick up lines simply do no work on girls.

Forget all the cheesy and corny pick up lines that you ever heard from your friends and other people. Girls have probably heard the same lame pick up lines that you have in mind. Do you honestly think that you girls will show any interest in cheesy pick up lines? Pick up lines become so cliché, and simply boring and unattractive. By approaching a girl and using classic pick up lines you are telling the girl that you lack originality, you are desperate, and you think that she is easy. None of these qualities are something that any girl will like. Honestly speaking, there is a very small number of girls that will fall for the old tricks of cheesy pick up lines. These girls simply don’t care about much and could be considered easy. The girls that accept cheesy pick up lines reflect the same exact desperate characteristics. They simply don’t care about much and simply want to hook up. If that’s the type of girl you are after, good luck. But most girls simply don’t fit into the easy category.

Some classic examples of cheesy pick up lines include “nice legs, what time do they open?” and “I lost my phone number. Can I have yours?” These are pick up lines that should be avoided at all costs. Such pick up lines imply that you just want to get in her panties right away. And again, a few easy girls may fall for the trick. But with most girls, it takes a bit more effort to get with them. There is simply a bigger challenge.

What we are going to focus on in this article is how to start a conversation rather than suggestions of good pick up lines. It’s recommended that pick up lines be avoided in general. Remember that your goal is to initiate a talk with a girl. Now, there are many different ways that can be done. Starting a conversation with a girl depends on the situation. You want to start talking to a girl about a specific topic that’s immediately relevant, rather than hitting on her right away.

Pick up lines are often used or suggested to be used in situations like parties, bars and nightclubs. These are places where a bunch of strangers gather. The reality is that these places are not the best to pick up girls. A few hookups may happen here in there. But that’s usually between a bunch of horny guys and girls. Forget the pick up lines and these bars and nightclubs. A good chance to pick up a girl is in a situation where both of frequent the same place or activity, but don’t really know each other. For example, you and a cute girl both work out together in the same gym. You see each other working out every week from a distance, but rarely interact. There is a golden chance to pick up a girl. With time you can get to know her from a distance and eventually approach her. You can start a conversation with the girl about the gym, equipment, exercises, etc. You can start to talk about a general and common topic that is relevant to her (the gym), while not hitting on her nor offending her. One conversation leads to another, and who knows what might happen after. Rather than immediately blowing your chances with stupid pick up lines, you have much better chances with the girl in the gym by talking to her about things that do not suggest that you are a horny pervert.

Your search for girls at parties and bars may last forever if you keep on counting on cheesy pick up lines. Try to pick up girls at places where you see the girls visit often. The more you see them, the more they see, and the better chance of interaction that’s going to last. Examples for these situations include girls in local parks, restaurants, shops, school, community centers, fitness centers, sporting events and facilities. Approaching girls in such locations already creates a good atmosphere for starting a conversations, as you actually have something meaningful and interesting to talk about. For example, you see a girl hanging out with her young relatives playing soccer. You come up to her and kick a few balls with the kids. She’ll appreciate it. Or if you have a dog, you can easily start a conversation with another girl walking her dog in the neighborhood or park. For example, you ask “That’s a cute terrier, what exactly is its breed?“ and you carry on conversations about your dog and dogs in general.

Hopefully you get the idea here, about starting a conversation about something a girl is already interested in. So rather than spending hours trying to come up with pick up lines, think of better ways to start conversations with girls in specific situations. Try to create situations where you will talk to a girl, without hitting on her right away. You don’t need to be a pick up artist to pick up girls. You don’t need the smoothest pick up lines, if there is even such a thing in the world. Just a good way to start a conversation.